Life is but a Dream

Okay now how many of you are humming or even singing row, row, row your boat?

The reason I called this post “Life is but a Dream” is for those of you who might be a bit disconnected at this time from reality.

Just yesterday I talked to someone about suicide.  I know it certainly is not your typical run-of-the-mill topics, but a very fitting one at this time of year.

It’s really, really cold and dreary which is forcing many of us to have a very limited social life.  In some cases some people might be completely isolated.

This can be unbearable, a great deal of time spent thinking about illness, wrong choices, bad friends, lack of finances: un-fixable things in our lives. It is a time of year where suicide rates go way up.

If you are thinking about suicide read this first it might help: a resource I found on the following website:

Helping Hand

It is a very misunderstood topic and I can only share my experience and what I’ve done to cope, both now and in the past when I experienced “Depression lows or Suicidal thoughts”

First, I’ve tried to reach out to others, that hasn’t always worked, not everyone has a bedside manner so to speak and they can cast you away with words like “get over it”, “what’s wrong with you.”

The reality is that unless someone is a professional, the average Joe including me does not have the skills to deal with your pain.  I can honestly say I wouldn’t know what to do.

If you are sitting at home now! you aren’t feeling well, if you are contemplating taking your life, please just get up, get dressed and head to your family doctor or the nearest hospital.  Tell them exactly how you feel and let them help you.  Don’t take no for an answer.

You need to get angry and tell yourself “I’m not going to give anyone the satisfaction of taking my life”.  That is one of the techniques I used.  I am competitive, so I compete with myself – egging myself on to fight the feelings and urge to let go.

Someone loves you, if you are constantly alone get a dog or a cat, believe me they will give you a reason to go on.  No matter what anyone says you are worth the fight.

So today I simply ask everyone who is reading this to be kind-hearted and stay strong…as they say this too shall pass.  The winter will soon be gone and the sun will be out.

Life is but a dream and  we will row through it together.  Lewis Carroll wrote a beautiful poem called Life is but a dream reminding us of what will come after this frosty winter air.

Life is but a Dream

A boat, beneath a sunny sky
Lingering onward dreamily
In an evening of July

Children three that nestle near,
Eager eye and willing ear,
Pleased a simple tale to hear

Long has paled that sunny sky;
Echoes fade and memories die;
Autumn frosts have slain July.

Still she haunts me, phantomwise,
Alice moving under skies
Never seen by waking eyes.

Children yet, the tale to hear,
Eager eye and willing ear,
Lovingly shall nestle near.

In a Wonderland they lie,
Dreaming as the days go by,
Dreaming as the summers die;

Ever drifting down the stream
Lingering in the golden gleam
Life, what is it but a dream?


  1. There is an interesting dilemma here. The concensus seems to be that suicide is always wrong, any life is better than no life, family and friends are more important than self. But having lived in severe pain for the last 5 years and having done all the medical, psychological and drug related routes, I long for an exit. In fact when the pain team ask me for my goals I have only one, and they don’t like it. At the end of the day the life is the life of one individual and nobody has the right to force that individual to live in circumstances that individual finds too hard to endure. That said there is a responsibility for the individual to minimise the impact on others and that means discussing plans openly and honestly with them.


    • Hi John, thanks for your comments I really appreciated that you took the time to write. I can’t begin to understand how you feel and I don’t want to diminish your feelings by saying that I do. If I can say one thing though is that from your response I sense two things. 1) you have a good grip on this and you could help many others who are facing this through your own experience. 2) you write very well, it might help you to write about your experiences. I know that in writing this Blog I have come to grips with many issues that years of therapy could not cure. I hope you give yourself a chance to have an impact, maybe that is the lifeline you need.


      • John, I might be very naive but I grew up with a belief that if I take my life today with my luck, tomorrow would be the day that everything works out. I just strongly believe we have a purpose and it isn’t to make huge strides in life but rather to impact and help others. I hope you stick it out, personally I think the world needs you and you need to find your place in it. If we are to believe religions that talk about reincarnation the sad fact might mean you are back here with a worst fate next time around. I don’t mean to sound offensive in any way and I hope you can sense from my messages that I am truly wanting to help.


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