To Quit or Not to Quit

The hardest thing to do is to get and stay motivated, but sometimes, quitting is most definitely the right thing to do.

I am quitting things in my life and I feel like quitting more.  I wasn’t sure why I had no motivation to do these things but it dawn on me that I am not happy in my own skin at the moment – I need to deal with that before I commit to anything else.

You see Fibromyalgia, IBS, Smoking, Drinking and Overeating have all propelled me to a place that is both scary and painful.  I completely fear the inevitable pain that keeps growing day-by-day.  Pain is now dominating my life and making it difficult to have quality.

It’s a vicious cycle of -I feel pain – I eat, drink or smoke to forget the pain – pain goes away temporarily and the cycle repeats.   I am working hard (45 Days Smoke Free) to remove these “fillers” but that also means more pain and finding new solutions to deal with the pain.

Right now, at this very moment my only goal is to get healthy.  I might put off other things in my life to make room for this goal.

Nothing is more important to me than this.  If I don’t make this a priority right now I honestly fear I won’t be mobile for very long.

This is a do-or-die situation if you know what I mean.  When I previously lost a lot of weight I did not have this pain so I am hoping that getting back in shape will have the same effect.  I don’t want to be on medication for the rest of my life.

Just because I am not miserable and complaining every second of every day does not mean that I am not in pain.

My strategy is to follow the 5 steps below which can be found in more detail here: Accomplish Anything (#Forbes)

  1. Set a goal and visualize it down to the most minute detail. …
  2. Make a list of the reasons you want to accomplish the goal. …
  3. Break the goal down into smaller pieces and set intermediary targets — and rewards.
  4. Have a strategy, but be prepared to change course. …
  5. Get the help you need.

The biggest obstacle to weight loss is the hope that others will want you to succeed, this sets you up for failure.  Some people in your life are very comfortable with you just the way you are.  This can cause them to say or do things to sabotage you.

Now from personal experience, the best way to deal with sabotage is to harness your anger/pain at the comments made, take that anger and go for a walk. Use it to fuel you.

I tried to have a conversation with my daughter this weekend about the Cardio Kick Boxing possibly being a bit too heavy duty for me to start…I am having back pain ever since we did our first class last Wednesday.

“Oh! Mom she said; you always quit everything you start” She apologized later but the damage was done and there was some truth to what she said, now instead of gorging myself on carbs, smoking a cigarette or having a drink I took my anger at her words and used it to push me in the right direction and I went for a walk last night.

Getting fit through diet and exercise creates big changes in your life—changes you welcome. But if your friends and family aren’t in the same mode of change, they can be oblivious, jealous, and uncomfortable with your changes. Perhaps:

  1. They feel guilty.You’re losing weight and getting in shape. They’re not. Tempting you to “fall off the fitness wagon” means you’re “normal” again, and they can feel good about the status quo.
  2. They don’t understand.They’ve never had a weight problem and just don’t realize how hard you’ve worked to get where you are. They think it’s “silly” for you to worry about what you eat.
  3. They miss the old you.That is, the cookies you brought to work, the after-work “happy hours” spent in the company of high-fat potato skins, the luscious desserts you used to indulge in. Maybe you’re spending more time in the gym and have less free time for them. Maybe they’re afraid to lose you. (#sparkspeople)

Don’t let anything derail you.  If you set a goal see it through.  You are doing this for you not anyone else.  You might also want to take on other things and surprisingly try to derail yourself.  Ultimately my only goal should be #GettingHealthy.


  1. Kick boxing, though I have never done it, seems impact intensive and you are smart to assess yourself after trying something new. No matter what you do you will be sore the first few times (Like me in spin class) but with fibro you have to be more careful, and you are!

    GREAT job going for a walk instead of reaching for a smoke or a snack! Damn proud of you! As well as the 45 days! You are one tough lady my friend!

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  2. Gail, I have found the best thing for me is walking and swimming… some dancing is great too… I find high impact things are difficult to recover from… I don’t want so much pain that I won’t go back to the exercise. xox You are smart to do what you can handle… and right now this has to be about us so that we can get our health back xox

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